I know people who are up on who the latest stars are, and what movie they are in, who they are dating, etc. I don't even know the names of the people I really like. You know, like that one actor with the really cool voice. I like every movie I've seen/heard him in, but I can never remember his name. Brian knows it. That's good enough for me. Oh, or what about that one actress? She is so funny, and does such a great job with her characters. Again, I don't know her name, but Brian knows. Funny how you become dependent on your spouse for little things like that.
Brian often knows just how I'll react when a simple word is spoken. The word lately has been 'cancer'. Again ... not a fan!!! If there is anything that I really hate, it has to be cancer - and I don't even have it. But I've had so many friends and family that have suffered, and I hate it!
I got an email yesterday telling my that one of my room mates from college has about 3 weeks left. She has been fighting breast cancer for over 8 years with such dignity and strength. She is a friend that was put in my life because God willed it - no other reason.
We met when she was dating one of Brian's friends. After a couple of dates, she knew it wasn't going to go anywhere, but the spirit told her to stay with him. Awhile later the 4 of us double dated, and she realized why she was supposed to date him ... so she could meet me. We talked the entire date and she became my room mate soon after. Right then she also met the man she would marry at one of our regular Sunday night game nights.
We were engaged to terrific guys at the same time. Our wedding rings are very similar because of our late night talks. We both have 3 kids all very close in age (boy, girl, boy), and they play so well together.
This will be the 4th friend who has passed away because of this monster. At the same time, my mother-in-law is dealing with her own battle with breast cancer (very early detection and all seems well). Just the sound of the word cancer makes my body go tense and the tears come to the surface. Brian knows this and puts his arm around me as if by instinct. It doesn't make the pain go away, but it tightens the bond between us because it's unspoken and understood.
So, though I'm not hip and up on pop culture, I know who my heroes are. I don't think 'fan' would describe how I feel for Brian. I'll stick with 'eternal companion', and be grateful for that blessing!
8 comments:
If you're forming an anti-fan club, sign me up!
I'm so sorry to hear about your friend's suffering.
Remember life is precious, and we are hereH to prepare for eternal life, which is ours. The Lord will bless us regardless and our faith will carry us through. Yes, it is a trial, but the blessings are great. Hand in there, and the goal is ahead.
G'pa W.
I'll join the anti-fan club too. I have seen too many people I love suffer through this hideous disease. I think I hate that word worse than all of the swears and other words I hate (like Hate). I wish this was something reserved for the "bad" people in life.
Well said.
This piece was well written. I too have lost many loved ones to this beast. I have also watched friends and family members slay this dragon. Treatments have come a long way...but in the case of breast cancer, the treatment is so brutal. We need a cure. I hope there will be one for our daughters.
I couldn't agree more.
Ditto!! It is a horrendous disease and needs a cure. I am so sorry about your friend. My heart goes to her and all that love her...especially those babes of hers.
Such a sad story Kim, it's hard to hear even when I don't know her. Cancer takes too many good ones!
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